Today was week two of the servant leadership training in the organisation I work with, Crosscare. Today was principally about looking at self awareness, part one of this was the group reflecting on whether we recognised/ knew our developed abilities and preferences and whether we recognised/knew our less developed abilities and struggles. First we reflected on how we go through the process of hiring people, we looked at what was important to us when we chose a candidate to come and work with us. We recognised that we were drawn to people who were multi-skilled with different strengths. What we were reflecting on was, were we the sort of organisation who then told that person that they then had to subscribe to our way and forget all they brought to the table, bonkers, of course its bonkers. There is little point in having a multi-skilled team if you are not going to encourage them to play to their strengths.
We looked at the Johari Window, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdozzYQgD_g. This is used to help us look at how open we can be to our self and others; it is a tool that can be used for personal growth and one that we have used in a supervision setting with our social care workers. This is achieved by giving and receiving feedback which allows us to achieve our growth potential. By allowing self disclosure and embracing self discovery we can change how others respond to us. Vulnerability allows other people feel connected to us.
Our emotional side is an Elephant and the rational side is the rider, the rider holds the reins and appears to be in control, to be the leader. But anytime the elephant disagrees the rider will lose. To make any progress you need the drive and energy of an elephant, if you want change to happen you have to have both, the rider for direction and the elephant for energy.
So in this case the three elements of change can be described as such:
Direct the rider: what looks like resistance may only be a lack of clarity.
Motivate the Elephant: what looks like laziness may be exhaustion, the rider can’t get his way by force for very long, what you need to do is engage peoples emotional side, get the elephant back on the path.
Shape the Path: what may look like a people problem may just be a situational problem, when you shape the path you make change more likely no matters what’s happening with the rider and the elephant.
We are slowly but surely opening up the world of Servant Leadership, have a look at Brene Brown explore the nature of vulnerability: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEPbkvhPuRk
More in two weeks time.