The Late Late Show and the fat shaming Katie Hopkins


Katie Hopkins is not right in what she says about Fat people, and this is why, you cannot place obesity into one simple linear argument, you cannot say people who are fat are fat because they eat too much and sit for too long. This is a complete over simplification of a very complex issue. We don’t yet understand the connection between emotion and eating, we don’t fully understand the need for bodily control, we don’t fully consider that overeating may just be preserving a fragile mental state. We find it difficult not to judge others, why???, what pushes us to judge. Why do we constantly use our head but forget our heart. Some obese people will never lose their weight if they constantly feel judged, some obese people may need a kick in the arse to get them going. What is important to remember is that we need to give them time to let us know when and if they need support, obesity and the whole fat shaming issue may have more to do with mental health than we are willing to recognise. The Late Late show would have been far better off having an honest debate about how culturally it is becoming unacceptable to look different than what the media want us to accept as normal.I am a morbidly obese man, I am loved and I love, I am successful personally and professionally, I have been told that I have been the instigator of change in other peoples lives. I am led by my heart and use my head, I am not less because I’m obese. I would never judge another human being and their frailties but I would go out of my way to try and bring some positivity into their life. Shame on Katie Hopkins for not having the sense and wisdom to use her media status to a more positive heart based effect.

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Leading to Serve, Serving to Lead Part 2


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Today was week two of the servant leadership training in the organisation I work with, Crosscare. Today was principally about looking at self awareness, part one of this was the group reflecting on whether we recognised/ knew our developed abilities and preferences and whether we recognised/knew our less developed abilities and struggles. First we reflected on how we go through the process of hiring people, we looked at what was important to us when we chose a candidate to come and work with us. We recognised that we were drawn to people who were multi-skilled with different strengths. What we were reflecting on was, were we the sort of organisation who then told that person that they then had to subscribe to our way and forget all they brought to the table, bonkers, of course its bonkers. There is little point in having a multi-skilled team if you are not going to encourage them to play to their strengths.

We looked at the Johari Window, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdozzYQgD_g. This is used to help us look at how open we can be to our self and others; it is a tool that can be used for personal growth and one that we have used in a supervision setting with our social care workers. This is achieved by giving and receiving feedback which allows us to achieve our growth potential. By allowing self disclosure and embracing self discovery we can change how others respond to us. Vulnerability allows other people feel connected to us.

Our emotional side is an Elephant and the rational side is the rider, the rider holds the reins and appears to be in control, to be the leader. But anytime the elephant disagrees the rider will lose. To make any progress you need the drive and energy of an elephant, if you want change to happen you have to have both, the rider for direction and the elephant for energy.

So in this case the three elements of change can be described as such:

Direct the rider: what looks like resistance may only be a lack of clarity.

Motivate the Elephant: what looks like laziness may be exhaustion, the rider can’t get his way by force for very long, what you need to do is engage peoples emotional side, get the elephant back on the path.

Shape the Path: what may look like a people problem may just be a situational problem, when you shape the path you make change more likely no matters what’s happening with the rider and the elephant.

We are slowly but surely opening up the world of Servant Leadership, have a look at Brene Brown explore the nature of vulnerability: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEPbkvhPuRk

More in two weeks time.

Leading to Serve, Serving to Lead


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Today was the first day of a Servant Leadership Course that we are doing in Crosscare, this was introduced to us a few weeks ago by our Director and Senior Managers and I for one have been excited and worried ever since.
This morning 12 of the management team met up at 9am in Holy Cross College, Conor Hickey our Director and Aidan Browne our trainer were going to take us through day 1 of the course.
Servant Leadership, what is it ?????
Management is doing things right, Leadership is doing the right things.
Efficiency is doing things right, Effectiveness is doing the right things.
There are seven practices to create cultures that are ethical, practical and meaningful.
Self Awareness
Developing your colleagues
Listening
Coaching not controlling
Unleashing the energy and intelligence of others
Changing the pyramid
Foresight
Today we spent some time looking at an overview of the course, we shared some of our hopes, looked at some of our skills and discussed our experience of positive and negative leadership. We have only scratched the surface but we are on our way. We watched a piece on youtube from a TedTalk by Simon Sinek called “Start with why”, this is a very interesting piece you should if you have the time watch the youtube piece and then go on to look at Robert Greenleaf who is recognised as the founding Father of Servant Leadership. That’s all for now, more in two weeks time after the next session.

Leading to Serve, Serving to Lead


Today was the first day of a Servant Leadership Course that we are doing in Crosscare, this was introduced to us a few weeks ago by our Director and Senior Managers and I for one have been excited and worried ever since.
This morning 12 of the management team met up at 9am in Holy Cross College, Conor Hickey our Director and Aidan Browne our trainer were going to take us through day 1 of the course.
Servant Leadership, what is it ?????
Management is doing things right, Leadership is doing the right things.
Efficiency is doing things right, Effectiveness is doing the right things.
There are seven practices to create cultures that are ethical, practical and meaningful.
Self Awareness
Developing your colleagues
Listening
Coaching not controlling
Unleashing the energy and intelligence of others
Changing the pyramid
Foresight
Today we spent some time looking at an overview of the course, we shared some of our hopes, looked at some of our skills and discussed our experience of positive and negative leadership. We have only scratched the surface but we are on our way. We watched a piece on youtube from a TedTalk by Simon Sinek called “Start with why”, this is a very interesting piece you should if you have the time watch the youtube piece and then go on to look Robert Greenleaf who is recognised as the founding Father of Servant Leadership. That’s all for now, more in two weeks time after the next session.